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Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Update on my mother

As it turns out, they've decided that she had a stroke during the procedure... she has FEELING in her right leg, but she cannot move it... she's got no control over it.

Just last night they located a spot for her to do some rehab and physical therapy, so they moved her to a new (closer) location. My daughter and I went to visit her - but of course, my daughter only wanted to play with grampa. "Hi Gramma, Grampa can we go for a walk around the hospital?" (that's pretty much how it went)

AND my daughter wrote me this cute little love letter at school today, (it's posted in a separate post) and as she was pulling it out of her backpack she said "Momma, I made you a valentine letter but I'm gonna show it to gramma" then she handed it to my mother. My mother read it and started crying... even though it very obviously wasn't for her... and my daughter even SAID just before she handed it to her that it was for me... and my mother told my father to put it in her address book because she wanted to save it.

As we were leaving, I asked my mother if I could have the letter so that I could take it home and scan it... then I'd send it back to the hospital with my dad tomorrow... she opened it up and read it again, then she handed it to me. So, luckily I at least get to have a "copy" of the letter!!

We are still enjoying the nice quiet house, now my father will be able to come home in the evenings (instead of sleeping in a chair in the hospital room) which makes us all very happy (especially my daughter!). I'm actually starting to sleep a little bit better (a little) with the house so quiet in the evenings... and no stress of worrying what's going to set off my mother "this time"

I'm still jobless... but still looking...


I recieved this note today from my daughter... it made me a little bit weepy! Read it and you'll understand completely!

Saturday, January 31, 2009

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Sorry this is sideways! It's a cell phone picture...

We took a walk around the block and she started picking up the wild "potato's" that we were seeing everywhere. She got so many that she had to use her sweater to carry them. She was so proud of how many she found!! (she would have gotten even more if I hadn't told her that she had enough and wasn't allowed to pick up any more)

Friday, January 30, 2009

As many of you know, I currently work for a local daycare doing their grocery shopping for them. (I get the milk and baby food and all of the breakfast and lunch ingredients, etc) This taks all of about 4 hours each week... paychecks are a miserable amount!!

SO! I've been looking for a job for months now... with no luck. (read previous posts for THAT story!)

Well... a month or so ago one of the managers (at one of the stores I shop at for the daycare) was complaining about one of his employees. She's unreliable, lazy... hates to work, etc. I jokingly said to him "You should hire me, I'm reliable and hard-working" then he said "you already have a job" I told him about how little hours I put in for the daycare... and after a little more chit chat, he finally said "I just hired a bunch of new people, but by February most of them will have quit - they are young and don't seem very reliable"

Well, last week when I came into the store for my weekly shopping visit - he approached me in the cereal isle and asked me "Can you work weekends?" This was the first thing he said to me... didn't give me a "Hi, how are you today" or any of the usual greetings.... so I was a bit taken aback by his "Can you work weekends" question. So I asked him why and he explained about one of the girls who always had some excuse as to why she couldn't work her full shift, or couldn't come in at all... he was going to be transferring her to another store. He said that once he did, he'd have an opening for a cashier. He gave me a website to visit to do an "online" interview - which was a series of questions you had to answer... apparently if you answer them correctly, you get a call from one of the managers to come in for a face-to-face interview.

I did the thing online and a few days later went back into the store... the manager went back and pulled up my info and said he needed about a week or so... he was still working through the employee transfer.

SO! If you are a praying person, I'd appreciate some prayers thrown up for me. This job would be perfect. It's during the day (when my daughter is in school) and even though I still have to put her into the 'after-care" at school, it would only be for just over an hour. And although the job would requre that I work weekends, it's not EVERY weekend. They rotate the weekends between the three daytime cashiers. I've got quite a few people who have already volunteered to help out with my daughter on those weekends. (plus I can ask both sets of grandparents - so I'm not real worried about the weekends)

I am concerned about how my little squirt is going to react to the need for her to go into after-care in the afternoons, she's never had to do that before... hopefully it will be a smooth transition.

I was mistaken

My mothers gastric bypass surgery was on the 26th not on the 28th.

When she came out of the operating room, they told my father that everything went as planned, and that she'd be groggy for a couple of hours afterwards. It was then MY job to call all of the relatives that were waiting to hear how the surgery went... I spent more time on the phone that day than I have in the entire week prior. (and I don't like talking on the phone!!!)

Once the medication wore off, my mother discovered that she has no feeling whatsoever in her right leg or her left thumb... the doctors could not explain why it was happening. They've guessed that perhaps the straps they had on her during the surgery may have pinched a nerve and it's a bruised nerve that's causing it... then there is also the possibility that something has happened to one of the two anuerysms that she's got in her head (fairly large, right behind her eyes... one of which is on her optic nerve and affecting her vision). They've got a call in for a nuerologist to come and take a look.. but as of this moment (when I'm writin this) they still haven't made it in to see her.

They are also discussing the possibility of sending her to a rehab center for physical therapy... which she is STRONGLY opposed to because they would be sending her to the same rehab center that she went to a few months ago after another surgery she had... nobody can understand why she doesn't want to go to this place. I do. The nurses and staff at this location have already had experience with her... they know what she is like after the first few days (for the first few days, she's a lovely wonderful lady... then she gets tired of putting on a happy face...)

please visit: http://www.bpdcentral.com/resources/basics/indicators.shtml to get a peek at her "personality"

Sunday, January 18, 2009

So Far So Good

so... I've been able to resist the "late night snack" temptation... that's helping a bit. I think that it would be much easier if I was able to get to sleep earlier as well.

Right now I stay up for a few hours after I put my daughter to bed... not because I WANT to, but because I just can't sleep. It's not unusual for me to be finally getting to bed around 3 or 4 in the morning. It's been this way since my husband passed away...

With that schedule, it's around 9:30 or 10 pm when I get hungry and feel the desire to start snacking...

I have to say that I've got a "good" role model also. My mother is having gastric bypass surgery on the 28th and she's supposed to be on a mostly liquid diet for 2 full weeks prior to the surgery (2 liquid meals and one low carb / high protien meal each day). And for the two weeks before that (starting one month prior to the surgery) she was supposed to be eating low carb / high protien meals at EVERY meal. Well... if you listen to her talking to her family members on the phone, you'd think that she was being extremely strict with this... doing it completely by the book. But when you live in the same house with her and you can SEE what she's actually eating, you'll see that she's not following the diet at all. She doesn't seem to have any control over herself whatsoever. There are medical reasons for why they want her on this special diet prior to the surgery... to make the surgery safer and to ensure a success.

For the first two week period (where she was suppsed to eat low carb / high protien meals) she did manage to eat more protien, BUT she didn't lower her carbs at all. All she managed to do was eat more food than normal. She figured that the protien was the most important part (her translation of the doctors orders) and she'd make sure she was getting the proper amount... then for this last two weeks (where she's supposed to eat 2 liquid meals - high protien shakes mostly - and have one low carb / high protien meal) she's doing the same thing... she's drinking two liquid meals... but then she's "saving" the carbs at mealtime by only eating meat... so she can have a sugary snack. I also have a sneaky suspicion that she's got food hidden in her room somewhere... but I don't have any proof of that.

I said she was a "good" role model. She is. Just like she's been a "good" role model for me all of my life. I see what she is doing and I know that I don't want to do that, or be that way. I see how she's eating and how she's abused food and I know that I don't want to be following that same path.

I'm able to stick to my plan easier because I see that she's not able to... how's that make me look?? Honestly, I don't care. This is my life and I really don't give a hoot what other people think of me... my motto in life has ALWAYS been "if you don't like the way I look, then don't look at me". (and that goes for what's inside and out!) It's that simple.

I want to change my weight because I am not happy with myself. I miss being able to run and play and jump and climb trees... I really miss having energy (and I think that SLEEP has a lot to do with my problems!).

okay. I'm done for today. I'm not going to brag about the scales showing 2 lbs less than they had last week... because 2 lbs is NO BIG DEAL. When I get to 10 lbs... I'll start braggin'!!!

Friday, January 16, 2009

"Happy" New Year

I've been inspired by several of my friends... they are on a mission to re-shape themselves this year. One of them is taking photos of herself each week to track her progress, and she's making herself accountable to an entire website of people! I don't know if I have the gumption to do that myself... but I'm going to put it on here anways.

Right now, I'm about 60 lbs overweight. 60 lbs doesn't SOUND like that much, it should be easy to get rid of... right?? Well, considering that I've been trying for years and years... I put that in italics because I'm not sure that "trying" is what I've actually been doing. I've been unhappy with my weight and I've had the intention of doing something about it... but I've never really taken any steps to actually change it.

I've said "I'll start eating better next week" or "after this weekend, I'll start biking again"... but guess what!? I NEVER DO! (surprised right?!)

I've been at this weight for about 3 1/2 years now... not gaining anymore and not losing either. I know that what I am eating NOW is not making me bigger... but it's also not helping me to get any smaller. When I lost my husband, I stopped caring about what I was eating or how I was eating... I didn't do any exercise (other than chasing my toddler around the house), I stopped caring how I looked or how I dressed and even my personal hygiene (I know it's a gross thought!) went south for a while. (an EXTREMELY short while, I assure you!) Personal Hygiene was the first to return... not showering for a couple of days makes my head itch!

It's been nearly 5 years now and I've finally come full circle. I think I'm ready to get myself back... I think I owe it to my daughter, to have a healthy and energetic mommy again... like I was when she was just a year old and we still had her daddy with us.

I'm commiting myself to making a change (or two or three) for the better.

WHO'S WITH ME?!